Probably you want to go from this convo.

[Insert Bad Version]

To this one where she’s super excited to talk to you.

[Insert Good Version]

I feel you, bro. In fact, that’s exactly how you should text a girl to make her want you, both online and in real life.

However, unless you learn the principles behind attracting girls, that won’t happen.

In this article, I won’t share the classical tips like using copy-paste lines taken from the internet. That’s dumb advice only to make you look like everybody else out there, and it won’t make you attract girls effectively.

What if there are better ways to message a girl on Tinder?

That’s what you’ll learn in this article, and much more, as you can see below.

In This Article You'll Learn

    5 Pro Tips To Message a Girl on Tinder; 
  • The #1 Reason Why She Ghosts You;
  • How to Sexualize Conversations Like a Pro;
  • Extra bonus tips;
Difficulty: Easy

What you’re about to learn in this article will make you arouse most girls on Tinder, even the ones as dry as the sahara desert.

Typical Scenario

It's one of those days when you want to chat with new girls.

You start a conversation with some of them, and it seems to go fine in the beginning.

However, after some time, you realize that something’s missing in your texting style, and it’s probably time to take care of it.

That's Not a Love Story

Messaging Like a Pervert

When I was inexperienced with girls, I used to text them like a pervert.

I started conversations by talking about sex, and this scared many girls off. Needless to say, I lost so many opportunities that I couldn’t handle it anymore. 

My self-esteem dropped the more I got rejected, and I started to feel like a loser.

That lasted until I realized that I probably had to follow a proven process that made girls attracted to me.

That’s what I did in several weeks of practice.

The results?

I went from 0 dates a day to 11+ a month.

This happened thanks to the 3 step process that I’m going to share with you today.

Moreover, I learned another thing when texting girls that will forever change your results with them.

Let’s talk about it later, for now it’s time to learn how to message a girl on Tinder.

Important Note: Read the article carefully; there’s a special attraction tip hidden inside.

How to Message a Girl on Tinder 

For most men, it’s a mystery understanding how to properly message girls on Tinder. In fact, due to the rejections they receive (even when sending the same copy-paste lines), some give up on understanding how to relate to them.

However, there’s no reason to give up understanding how to relate to girls as they’re much more understandable than it seems. Below, you’ll realize how to properly text a girl on Tinder.

Message Tip #1: Challenge Her

One of the most exciting things for a girl is being challenged by a potential partner. From an evolutionary perspective, being direct with a girl without being afraid of rejection will show her that you aren’t scared to play it boldly when it comes to seduction.

Challenging a girl is what beta and gamma males are usually afraid of doing; that’s why if you show the guts to tease her, she’ll automatically categorize you as an alpha. 

There are many ways you can challenge a girl over text, for example:

  1. Teasing her

  2. Disagreeing with her

  3. Bets

1: Teasing Her

When you tease a girl over text, you will spark potent emotions in her to make her feel more attracted to you. 

That’s one of the best ways to give her those doubled-edged feelings that she craves.

2: Disagreeing with Her

This will work well with more attractive girls. In fact, almost nobody dares to go against what they say. You’ll probably be one of the few men out there having the guts to do so.  

That will make her think that you think for yourself and that you aren’t fazed by the opinions of a girl, even if she’s attractive.

3: Bets

Another way that I like to challenge girls is by playing challenging games by betting. For example, who will eat the most at a restaurant resist doing something or anything else contextual to the situation.

Message Tip #2: Create a Narrative

Creating a compelling narrative is probably the best way to make a girl think about you, 24/7. A narrative is created when you create a story where you and her play the main characters.

Usually, I see what type of girl I’m interacting with, and based on how she is, I give her a compliment that suits her. 

After that, I give her a pen name that suits her style and create a story around her. Finally, I give myself a character that might fit the narrative well, and I make the two play together until, like in a movie, love happens.

Look at this example.

[Insert Pic]

That’s an example of narrative texts that I send girls to make them imagine a fantasy life with me.

How to Message a Girl on Tinder: 5 Pro Tips to Make Her Go Crazy (With Examples)

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Married life is the same as dating life, except now you have a ring, and the state of California has a vested financial interest in the outcome of your marriage.

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The #1 Common Reason Why Girls Ghosts Men

If you're wondering why some girls ghost men, the answer is straightforward. In fact, it can all be condensed into one word: value.

Actually, the reason why girls ghost men are not value but a lack of it during conversations. 


Because that's what all girls look for in a man at the end. Whether we talk about material, emotional, or spiritual domains, they all come together in the concept of value.

That's why most coaches & professionals teach their students to provide as much value as possible to their clients. That's what they want, after all.

How can you avoid being ghosted then? By learning how to provide value to girls, keep reading to find out more about doing this.

If you believe you're already providing value to girls, but they're still ghosting you, there might be other common reasons why she does so.

We’re just scratching the surface here, in a moment you will discover other essential tips to sexualize conversations like a pro.

How to Message a Girl on Tinder: 5 Pro Tips to Make Her Go Crazy (With Examples)

Message Tip #3: Sexualize The Conversation

Have you ever thought that sexualizing conversations might be the most crucial element to consider when attracting girls?

Many men fail to realize that girls are sexual creatures and not robots that don’t think about it at all. If we have to be honest, girls probably think about sex more than most men, especially after trying it for the first time.

So why do some men still don’t head the text conversation into more intimate topics? 

Look at this example:

[insert before sexualizing]

As you can see, the girl and I talked about ordinary stuff during this stage of the interaction.

After having injected sexuality, she became much more excited, not to say sexually aroused.

[Insert Pic]

That’s a complete game-changer that will transform your interactions into something incredibly erotic.

Sexualizing the conversation is paramount to make her desire you.

Message Tip #4: Make Her Laugh

I think you already heard about this many times. However, making her laugh is one of the best ways to put her into the right state of mind she needs to be in before having sex with you.

That’s because it’s scientifically proven that laughter causes the release of hormones like dopamine that put girls in a more receptive way. 

That’s fundamental to apply as women’s arousal system is triggered by various stimuli like comfort and relaxation.

By leading the girl into those mental states, you’ll get her ready to receive you.

How can you make her laugh? Look at this example.

[Insert pic]

That’s one of my favorite ways to make a girl laugh over text as it plays around a specific humor style adequate for her.

What’s important is that you’re congruent with your personality when you ironize over text. Otherwise, she will perceive you differently when meeting you in person.

Now it’s time for the last tips to teach you how to strengthen the interactions with girls enough to get a date.

Message Tip #5: Connect

Connecting with a girl over text might seem like a daunting task for many men; however, nothing is more straightforward than that. 

Moreover, if you manage to connect with a girl, she’ll be much more comfortable sleeping with you as I teach in my Integral Text Game Course.

This happens because women are emotional creatures and need to feel emotionally connected to a man before sleeping with him.

That’s why you’d be much better off talking about topics that would strengthen your bond with her, like:

  1. Shared Interests & Passions

  2. Common Values

  3.  Personal Stories

By combining one (or more) of the elements above, you’ll ensure yourself high connection levels with virtually any girl.

And The Story Ends like this

Excitement & More

In the end, I became so good at texting girls that chatting had finally become a pleasure both for them and for me.

After realizing that girls wanted me to talk to them in a specific way that triggered their emotions, my results changed completely. That’s what you can get to as well by following the tips I’ve just given you.

Bonus Tip!

Sexualizing conversations is a must if you want to succeed with girls.

Bonus Tip: Sexualize Conversations Like a Pro

Before you go, I want to give you a final tip. 

If you’ve been wondering how to sexualize conversations as an alpha male does, here’s the solution to your questions.

It all comes to leading the girl into the path of perdition through different entries. Let’s explore some of them together.

1: The Topic Correlation Entry

That’s the smoothest form of entry you can use to talk sex with a girl you like.


Because that’s usually what happens in real life when you lead a girl to talk about hotter topics.

In fact, try to recall your in-person experiences with the girls you slept with. Did you talk about sex abruptly, or it occurred as a smooth transition from one topic to the other?

I guess you know the answer. Look at this example:

[Insert Pic]

As you can see, we were talking about a topic that was related to sex. After that, I moved the conversation into something spicier. That’s what usually makes the girl enjoy the transition into the sex topics. 

Talking about what’s in the picture is just one topic to start from. However, there many more to start with as I teach in my Integral Text Game Course

2: The Narrative Entry

This sexualizing perfect if you’ve already established a narrative with the girl as taught before.

 As you know, narratives are widely used amongst successful companies to empower their message. That’s to sell more products and to create more long term relationships with customers. 

However, if dating is sales applied into intimacy, this will work as well! Look at this example:

[Insert Pic]

As you can see, I moved our romantic story into something spicier, making her participate in our “movie” with more intensity. Needless to say, how this ended up.

3: The Direct Entry

Finally, that’s the simplest form of entry you can use with girls. The advantages of the direct entry are that you save time in getting to your goal and show the girl extreme confidence by being bold.

Make sure to use the direct entry only with girls with which you’ve already built enough comfort, or they might reject you.  

As a rule of thumb, the higher the comfort level you establish with a girl, the more likely she is to be okay with your sexualization moves.

Wizard Takeaway

Girls need to be understood and treated according to how nature programmed them. That’s when you’ll start reaping all the benefits of interacting with them.

Now you know how to message a girl on Tinder.

Start sending some good ones 😉

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