9 Powerful Tinder Icebreakers to Make Her Open Up (Not Only Mentally) 

 December 6, 2020

By  Sal Romeo


Are you a guy looking for the best Tinder Icebreakers?

Maybe you want to start your conversations in a way that engages the girls while, at the same time, breaks the initial barrier of coldness.

In this article, you won’t find Tinder Openers to help you start a conversation and get a reply. Here you’ll find true icebreakers that will make women open up with you from the very first message.

That will make it easier for you to transition into a sexual conversation and get potential dates.

In This Article You'll Learn

    9 Powerful Icebreakers that Work 90%+ of Times
  • A Proven Bio Type to Make Her Start Conversations With You;
  • The 3 Common “After Opening Mistakes” to Avoid at All Costs;
  • How to Go From Opening to Close in 3 Simple Steps;
  • Extra bonus tips;
Difficulty: Easy

The tips I’m about to give you will change your life, even if the only ice you broke so far has been the one in the cocktail you drink with your friends. 

It will also help you expand your mind and become more creative with your openers to not need my help in the future.

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Typical Scenario

It's one of those days where you feel curious to see who you'll match with on Tinder. You open the app and see that you have some matches to talk to, maybe from the previous days or probably after half an hour of swiping.

You see that the girl you matched with is not a top model, unfortunately, but she seems cute. You still want to know her better, especially on her female-smelling bed. 

You enter the chat, and your mind goes immediately blind like somebody turned off the lights. 

[Insert Empty Chat Pic]

In a fraction of a second, you realize you have no idea of what to say to her to start the magic conversation that will bring you to her place.

You think about the news you heard that might interest her, that opener your friend suggested you or perhaps the ones that you always used and produced mediocre results, like:

  • "Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice." 

  • "Hey, you look like my next girlfriend ;)"

  • "Hey, what are you doing? I'm doing bread!"

Ha, haha. Even Jim Carrey doesn't laugh at those try-hard openers.

[Insert Serious Jim Carrey giphy]

I know those scenarios because the same used to occur when I tried to break the ice in a witty way with girls on Tinder.

That's Not a Love Story

When I Was Boring

The problem of not knowing what to say to start a conversation with a girl on Tinder (and elsewhere) haunted me for many years. 

I was the typical guy wasting up to half an hour, trying to come up with the best possible opener that would have left women speechless. 

Unfortunately, however, they all reacted pretty much the same. That below is a good example:

I hated the feeling of boring women like a math professor does when all you think about is having the thighs of the hottest female student on your face. 

That’s when I realized I was just like the boring math professor, just that I was annoying the women I liked. 

I hated myself so much that day of comprehension that I decided to embark on a journey. One where I would become good at texting women and stopped being, “Mr. I don’t know how to make her wet over text.”

That’s when everything changed. 

I went online to search for the best pickup lines. I read many books on seduction, female psychology, and persuasion. 

After some months, I was getting answers back from the women I liked. After a little less than 2 years of researching and practicing, I had found a way to unlock the magic mind of most women, just by texting them.

That’s when things started to get interesting, not only for me but also for the women texting me as they started to reach out to me for more of the drug I gave them.

We’ll talk about some of my stories later, for now let’s learn what icebreakers you should use to make her answer back to you.

Not every icebreaker is the right one unfortunately

Tinder Icebreaker #1: One of the Craziest...

The Icebreaker

“One of the craziest things I’ve done in my life was [thing]. What about you [Name]?

Icebreaker Power

Not the craziest icebreaker (strangely enough), so it gets a 7/10 power score.


That’s a great icebreaker to use to start the conversation funnily. If you happen to be a pretty adventurous guy, I’m sure you did something crazy too.

You can share whatever you like the most, depending on the girl, of course.

Works Best With

This usually works better with open-minded girls and adventurous one.

Real Example

Tinder Icebreaker #2: Guess at what age I...

The Icebreaker

“Guess at what age I gave my first kiss [name]”

Icebreaker Power

Since we start talking about personal stuff, this icebreaker gets an 8/10 power score.


That’s a great one to use to start the conversation with something related to sexuality immediately.

That’s indeed a great way to break the ice as you’ll start to know this private thing about you. Of course, things can turn even more sexual if she’s predisposed to it. To play around, you can say you never kissed a woman so far.

P.S. Don’t forget to ask her when she gave her first kiss.

Works Best With

Laidback girls and experienced ones will usually respond better to this opener.

Real Example

Thomas Middleditch

Married life is the same as dating life, except now you have a ring, and the state of California has a vested financial interest in the outcome of your marriage.

Not sure it's the same but... ok!

Tinder Icebreaker #3: I feel we have...

The Icebreaker

“I feel we have many things in common [Name]. Like saving kittens from extinction.”

Icebreaker Power

That’s not super powerful, but if you start talking about things you have in common, it can get so. This one gets a 6/10 power score.


This icebreaker has the purpose of getting her to talk about what you might have in common. In fact, after her answer (whatever it will be), you should move the conversation into the real things that you guys have in common.

Works Best With

That can work well with any woman.

Real Example

Those are just a few of the icebreakers you’re about to learn. Keep reading to discover what’s left for you.

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A Proven Bio Type to Make Her Start Conversations With You

Ever wondered how to make girls break the ice with you on Tinder? 

Of course, you did! Don’t lie to me, my friend. 

After all, every man on this planet would like things to work as in Bumble, where she’s the one that starts the conversation first.

Well, I realized that if you write a cool enough bio, girls will start conversations with you, even on Tinder. 

The process is simple. All you have to do is write a bio that’s comprised of those 3 elements:

  1. An interesting plot

  2. A question

  3. A call to action

Look at this bio example:

“I go sailing 3 times a week.

My surfing instructor told me I should bring my girlfriend sometimes.

I told him I have to find an interesting one. Maybe it’s you?

Swipe right to discover it.”

Let’s break it down now:

Interesting Plot

I go sailing 3 times a week 

My surfing instructor told me I should bring my girlfriend sometimes.

I told him I have to find an interesting one. 


Maybe it’s you?

Call to Action

Swipe right to discover it.

As you can see, that’s an engaging bio that will make many women engaged from the very first line. You show value by talking about your lifestyle and tell a story at the same time. Moreover, the end part will want to make her answer your question. 

That’s the bio I’ve written for myself.

[Insert Pic Bio]

And those are some of the openers I got

Not Always men have to start first.

Tinder Icebreaker #4:There’s one thing that I like...

The Icebreaker

“There’s one thing that I like the most about you, but I’ll tell you about it later.”

Icebreaker Power

That one gets an 8.5/10 power score.


This icebreaker is very powerful for two reasons. First of all, it will make the girl curious about what you have to say about her. 

After that, you’ll reveal what you like about her immediately, securing your way out from the friend zone in just two moves.

If this works, she’ll be super receptive to your sexual escalation later on.

Works Best With

This will work well with virtually every woman, apart from acid ones.

Real Example

Tinder Icebreaker #5: 2 Truths and a Lie. I'm a...

The Icebreaker

"2 Truths and a Lie. I'm a virgin. Probably I like you. One of those statements is not true."

Icebreaker Power

That Tinder Icebreaker wins a compelling 9.5/10 power score.


If you analyze it carefully, the last part, "one of those statements is not true," is necessarily true because that’ìs what's the game is about.

So not the other two elements remain:

  1. Being a virgin

  2. Liking her

One of them is false, and the other is true. Of course, the trick of this game is to let her know that you like her (and you're not a virgin).

Suppose you happen to be a virgin (no worries, bro, I lost my virginity very late, too). In that case, you can substitute it with anything you want. 

For example, with "I've never kissed a girl" or "I've never been to Miami."

Make sure to put something false so that, by exclusion, she'll understand that you like her.

Works Best With

That works with every woman on the planet, apart from dumb ones that won't logically understand the exclusion game.

Real Example

Tinder Icebreaker #6: You look like a...

The Icebreaker

"You look like a [Adjective/Description] girl."

Icebreaker Power

This icebreaker is mild in power and gets a 6.75/10 power score.


This icebreaker is good because it will make the girl qualify herself. Even if this opener doesn't get a high initial power score, it will lead your conversation in the right direction.

In fact, the girl will probably tell you more about herself, giving you more pieces of the puzzle to understand her. 

Works Best With

Since you have to put in one adjective that would fit well with the girl you're talking to, any woman has to put in one adjective.

Real Example

Now it’s time to learn the 3 most common mistakes a man makes after starting a conversation with a girl.

The 3 Common “After Opening Mistakes” to Avoid at All Costs

Mistake 1: Early Close

Ever happened to text a girl, and only after 1 minute, you know her to ask her out? 

[Insert pic]

I'm guilty of this. That's why I know this doesn't work. As you'll learn in a moment, you should ask a girl out over text only when you've built enough comfort.

Mistake 2: Premature Sexualization

That's by far the most common problem that men worldwide do nowadays. I understand that we think about sex all the time. However, we can't assume girls will want to have it with us after a few minutes. 

That's especially true with online dating, where she doesn't even know who's behind the screen. The sexualization phase only comes after having sparked attraction in her as I teach in my Integral Text Game Course.

Mistake 3: Asking too Many Questions

What's worse than a guy that asks 10 questions in 2 minutes to a girl he has just known?

[Insert Pic]

The interviewer syndrome will not get any man laid on this planet, even if he does the interviewer for a living.


Because girls will see that the guy is acting out of neediness instead of authentic interest. Please don't be this guy, and you'll go a long way after the opener.

Tinder Icebreaker #7: I wanted to say that…

The Icebreaker

I wanted to say that you look like my next girlfriend but then realized I'd look as dumb as Chip did in the movie Hitch. That's why I'll be a nonconformist and tell you that you look exactly like my grandmother.

Icebreaker Power

This one gets an 8:25/10.


This opener is impressive because it has many facets to it.

Let's analyze it together.

The first part makes her acknowledge you're aware of the classical opener used by almost any guy. 

The second one includes a movie element that can be useful when discussing romance (since the movie is Hitch). 

The third part is designed to make her laugh while also seeding some doubts in her.

This opener is going to break the ice as it will open you to many different scenarios.

Works Best With

Confident girls as insecure ones might get disturbed even by the joke that they look like your grandmother.

Real Example

Tinder Icebreaker #8: I think I’m 97% straight...

The Icebreaker

I think I’m 97% straight and 3% gay. What about you?

Icebreaker Power

This gets a 9/10


This is a funny icebreaker that will make you go directly into sexual preferences. 

The conversation can quickly move into sex topics very easily if she’s open-minded enough for it.

Moreover, you can discover if she’s 50% straight and 50% lesbian so that you can have a threesome with her and another girl.

Works Best With

Open-minded girls.

Real Example

Tinder Icebreaker #9: My favorite Disney movie...

The Icebreaker

My favorite Disney movie is Snow White. I love it when she does kinky stuff with Prince Charming. 

Icebreaker Power

This one gets a 10/10.


Even if we’re talking about Disney movies here, the icebreaker's fun twist will move the conversation out of the boredom zone.

We all know there was no kinky stuff in Snow White, but adding it yourself will make the conversation sexual without looking like a pervert.

Works Best With

Disney movies lovers.

Real Example

And The Story Ends like this

Maximum Engagement

In the end, after learning how to break the ice like a pro, girls began responding to me much better. 

Moreover, using the icebreakers that I just shared with you, the conversation usually went in the right direction automatically.

In fact, it made it easier for me to connect with them, as well as sexualizing things later on.

That’s when I realized that it’s true that the first impression matters a lot in human relationships.

Bonus Tip!

Sexualizing conversations is a must if you want to succeed with girls.

How to Sexualize Conversations in 3 Simple Steps

Before you go breaking the ice with girls, I want to give you a bonus tip.

You know how to break the ice with girls and what mistakes to avoid after starting your conversation.

However, what should you do to bring the conversation to a more sexual place?

Follow the steps below for maximum results:

  1. Make Her Laugh

  2. Tease Her

  3. Compliment + Sexual Line

Make Her Laugh

The first thing to do is make her laugh, as this will get her out of whatever negative or neutral state she’s experiencing.

Tease Her

After that, it’s time to provoke her to show that you’re not fazed by her beauty, and you’re confident enough to tease her.

Compliment + Sexual Line

Finally, it’s time to give her an authentic compliment so that she feels desired by you. Once she accepts the praise, you can get into the sex topic by using a sexual line.

Look at the example below to inspire yourself:

[Insert Pic]

That’s what I teach in my Integral Text Game Course, by the way.

Wizard Takeaway

Once The First Barrier Is Broken, Girls Will Seem Much Better People Than They Seem Otherwise.

Now you know how to break the ice with a girl over text.

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Content Summary

9 Explosive Tinder Openers that Will Make Her Reply 7 Times out of 10 (Real Examples)

  • Tinder Opener #1: You know what's the first thing I thought when I saw your pictures [Name]?
  • Tinder Opener #2: You look amazing [Name]! What is your IQ? 
  • Tinder Opener #3: Can you keep a secret [Name]?  
  • Tinder Opener #4: I want to penetrate your... mind [Name].
  • Tinder Opener #5: I’m sure you have a good side and a bad side within you [Name] but not sure which one I should know first
  • Tinder Opener #6: I’m divorced with 5 children, is it a problem for you [Name]?
  • Tinder Opener #7: I was wondering if you liked more giving or receiving...
  • Tinder Opener #8: [Name], I hope you don’t look like my grandma without makeup
  • Tinder Opener #9: I’m really good at one thing in life [Name] and it's done with the tongue. Can you guess it?
  • Tinder Opener #10: You inspire me 3 things [Name]. The first one is protection and the second is nice conversations.

Sal Romeo

Integral Relationships Consultant for Ambitious Men

Sal Romeo

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