Maybe when you text girls, you manage to get them interested enough to talk to you for a day or two.

However, it might be that you find it hard to close them on solid dates from where you can easily hookup. 

I know I’ve been there, and this made me feel frustrated. I guess that’s exactly how you feel when this happens.

Now, I know you want this to stop happening. That’s why I’ve created this post for you. Here you will find 5 actionable steps that will make you go from texting a simple “hi” to making her invite you to her place. 

Along with that, you’ll learn:

What You'll Learn

    Getting solid dates over text;
  • How to Start Conversations like a pro;
  • Making her attracted to you from the start;
  • Build Solid comfort to Sexualize later;
  • Closing to dates or to your place;
  • Extra Bonus Tips;
Difficulty: Intermediate

That will help you even if so far you always got stuck in any phase between opening and closing. 

Typical Scenario

It's one of those days where you feel sexually aroused, and you want to meet a beautiful girl to release yourself.

You go on Tinder and start chatting with your new matches. You manage to bring the conversation to an interesting point. Then you feel like you're hitting a wall as you don't know how to move things forward.

So you start saying stupid things to girls that, of course, put you in an even worse spot than the one you were before. 

That's when you realize you screwed it up.

However, you know that there must be a way to bring those interactions to fruition. After all, some guys manage to get laid from Tinder. Why shouldn't you?

That's Not a Love Story.

Good Conversationalist = No Hookup

That happened to me as well when I was inexperienced at texting girls. I’ve always been a good conversationalist and could talk for hours with women about virtually any topic. 

However, when things needed to go somewhere (hooking up), I didn’t know how to move forward and often ended up doing nothing with the girl.

That’s when I realized I needed to push things a little bit more than what I had been used to doing. The problem was that I didn’t know how to do this; that’s why I felt stagnant and unable to move forward. 


So I started to think about what next move would be logical in the hookup sequence. The answer didn’t last to come. That was sexualizing the conversation. 

However, the problem still remained. How could I sexualize conversations with girls without risking getting rejected?

That’s what I learned along my journey by talking to hundreds of girls. Some of them rejected me, of course, as I didn’t know when and how to calibrate my hookup move. 

However, after some time, I learned a step-by-step practice that made me close girls to my place, like drinking water. 

The funniest one occurred with a girl from Poland. What she texted me would surprise you so much that I’m sure you’ll start using my strategy with every girl.

Let’s talk about it later. Now it’s time for you to learn the powerful 5 Step Approach to Hookups. 

Tip #1: Smart Opening

If you want to succeed in hooking up with girls, you must start in the right way. You can’t build a concrete building by putting weak foundations.

The same happens with building solid interactions with girls. A big part of your first impression is formed during your first 2-3 lines. 

That’s the time when the girl will think, “Hmm, is this guy for me or not?”

Well, let her think whatever she wants about you but try to make it as favorable as possible. 

Scientific research shows how, when we meet a person for the first time, we unconsciously think if this person is somebody we should eat, kill or mate with. 

That’s also one of the fundamental principles of marketing and sales that few are aware of. If that’s the case, it means that you should maximize how girls perceive you from the very first lines. 

How can you do this?

With a value-sparking opener.

A value-sparking opener is a way to start conversations that makes girls immediately understand that you are a man of high status. 

Look at this example:

[High status opener 1 ]

[High status opener 2]

As you can see, those openers got me some attention while at the same time preparing the ground for the next phases. 

This will make them attracted to you and lower their defenses. This will make it easier for you to bring them into the next stage to make their emotions spark. 

5 Actionable Steps to Hook Up on Tinder (From Hi to “Come Over”)

Tip #2: Sparking Emotions

Now it’s time to make those girls a little bit more excited, and you’ll do this by sparking their emotions. 

Why should you do this?

So that when they are amid their emotional high, you can build more rapport with them. This will prepare you for the stage before closing.

How can you spark emotions in girls?

The best way to do it is by making her laugh or talk about topics that she’s interested in. That’s why if you can understand the type of girl you’re chatting with, you’ll be much more successful.

Look at those examples:

[Spark Emotions 1]

[Spark Emotions 2]

As you can see, they were very excited and emotionally aroused as soon as I dropped those lines. This paved the way for my next move that was creating a connection. Let’s learn about it together.

We’re just scratching the surface here. Sparking emotions won’t be enough for you to make her want to hook up with you.

Keep reading to find out how to get to the sexualizing stage with any girl you meet online.

5 Actionable Steps to Hook Up on Tinder (From Hi to “Come Over”)

Oscar Wilde

“The very essence of romance is uncertainty.” 

Sometimes that's all we need to let go of our preconceived notions of our relationships.

Tip #3: Connecting

Now comes one of the most critical parts. Do this right, and you can smoothly get her to come to your place. Do this wrong, and she won’t even agree to chat with you anymore.

Women are emotional creatures, and, by nature, they need to feel comfortable before sleeping with a man they deem attractive. 

Unless you’re as attractive and famous as Brad Pitt, you can’t skip this part, unfortunately, even if it’s boring. 

I know it might sound strange to you the idea of connecting with a girl over text. However, that’s how it also works with online dating. The fundamental rules stay unchanged.

However, if you successfully manage to connect with a girl over the phone, then you are 80% done. 

How can you connect with a girl via text?

Following the steps below will work.

1: Find out her Passions

First of all, you must find out what she likes doing in life. That’s how you’ll prompt her to talk endlessly about herself. 

When she talks about her passions, take note of it, and understand what kind of woman she is. That’s useful information that’s going to come in handy to you later.

2: Reveal Your Passions

After that, you must talk about yourself and what you like. Try to build rapport strategically by talking about the passions you and her might have in common. 

That will create a reinforcing loop where the two of you will be sharing more and more about yourself.

3: Share Stories

Finally, share your funniest, craziest, and if you want, most intimate stories. This will create even more connections between you and her to feel secure to bring things forward with you.

Look at those examples to sew how you should do it

[Her Passions]

[Your Passions]

[Share Stories]

5 Actionable Steps to Hook Up on Tinder (From Hi to “Come Over”)

Tip #4: Sexualizing

Now comes the best part—the part of texting that every man dreams of doing without spending energies on all the previous ones.

Luckily, you learned about them, so it’s time to go into the sauce. 

Sexualizing conversation is where most men get stuck; this happens for many reasons.

1: The first reason is that most men are afraid of talking sex topics with the girls they like;

2: The second reason is that most men don’t know how to do this properly, even if they’re willing to.

How to solve those problems?

If you’re afraid of sexualizing conversations with women online, how can you ever have the guts to ever insert your aubergine into her?

It will help if you overcome this fear by launching yourself. You have all the skills you need to be sexual with a girl. Just enjoy it! Few things are as funny as talking sex with a girl in the baddest ways.

About the second problem, sexualizing conversations like a boss. Here comes my help.

Now, after you connect with a girl, you’ll find yourself in a place where you both know each other reasonably well. However, there’s this small spark that’s missing from the interaction. A little ingredient that, if it were just there, would turn everything around. 

To sexualize conversion with girls, use the following 3 entries:

1: The Direct Entry

That’s when you feel so confident after having spoken to the girl that you go direct and hope she’ll take your bait. 

This approach is fast and will avoid you wasting a lot of time getting into this phase. Look at this example to see how to do it:

[Direct Entry]

2: The Polite Entry

That’s the best way to enter the sexual topic with conservative girls or those who don’t feel comfortable with you yet. Kind of boring, but it often works as it’s very low risk.

Here’s an example of the polite entry

[Polite Entry]

3: The Topic Correlation Entry

Finally, we have the topic correlation entry that’s best to use when talking about something that might be related to sex. 

Usually, I use this entry when talking about going on trips to the spa or romantic movies.

Here’s an example of the topic correlation entry.

[Topic Correlation Entry]

Confident Sexualizing is the key to dating success.

Tip #5: Closing

Finally, the time to close has come. You are on the last step of the 5 step process to get the girl at your place. 

If you’ve done all the previous stages correctly, you’ll find yourself in a stable position to close her. 

At this point, you can do three things:

1: Asking for a date

2: Asking her to come to your place

3: Going to her place

Your choice should depend on how you perceive yourself to be to her. If you think you’ve built enough comfort, you can try going for options 2 or 3; otherwise, playing it safe and choosing 1 or 2 will be a better idea. 

Look at this example of closing I used with a girl with which I had built enough comfort.

How The Story Ended

Going to Her Place

In the end, the Polish girl I texted was so comfortable at talking to me that she invited me to come over to her place, as you can see from the screenshot below.

[Insert photo]

After spending the night with her, I understood that building massive comfort over text will make the rest of the game much easier. 

I was astonished when she didn’t put up any resistance when we were in her bed together. It was as if she knew what type of man I was, and she was ok with letting herself go.

Try this yourself to believe it, and you’ll find out that women really need to feel emotionally connected to a man to hook up with him.

Before you go and have fun with those girls, I want to give you a bonus tip.

Always make sure she's up for the date with you by securing it.

Bonus Tip!

Bonus Tip: securing the Date

That’s a pro tip that will make sure you get the date secured. Many women are flaky when it comes to setting dates with guys known on dating apps. 

For that reason, more than half of them could quickly be canceled just because she forgot, she found another guy, or simply because she’s not in the mood.

That happened to me many times, and I don’t want this to happen to you. That’s why I crafted this 3 steps approach to use the day before you have the date.

Step 1: Send a Cool Picture/Gif

First of all, send her a picture of a gif. This way, you’ll make her laugh or give her positive emotions if you sent her a picture of you while doing something cool.

Step 2: Spark emotions & Connect

After that, spark emotions to make her excited again and then connect with her once more. The connection here (and not sexualization) will remove doubts from her mind that you’re there just to have sex with her. This will create more trust and increase the likelihood she’ll come to see you.

Step 3: Sneak in the confirmation

Finally, confirm the date and hope for the best. You’ve already done a great job coming this far. This bonus tip is just the cherry on the cake.

All those things are explained in detail in my Integral Text Game Course, by the way.

Wizard Takeaway

following this 5 steps structure is paramount to get the results you want with girls.

Miss one of the 5 steps elements and you have an impaired game. Use them all, and the girls will be yours, promise.

Now you know enough about starting conversations with girls. 

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