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Maybe you’ve tried different openers and you didn’t get the results you expected.

Perhaps you are just looking for more powerful ways to start conversations with girls. If that’s the case, you’re in the right place.

Now you probably heard countless opener ideas from many reputable sources. However, did those openers really work?

I don’t think so unless they were continuative hook openers. 

What’s that, Sal? Never heard of it.

A continuative loop opener is a way to start a conversation with girls that facilitates the other stages in the seduction process.

This means that thanks to those openers, you’ll manage to get to a date much more quickly as they’ll prompt girls to keep talking to you about them.

That’s why in this article you won’t find the typical advice of using standard openers.

What if there actually were a better way to engage all those girls?

That’s what you’ll learn in this article, along with what’s outlined below.

What You'll Learn

  •  
    7 Irresistible openers she craves to receive;
  • What to do when She Doesn’t Answer Your opener;
  • A powerful way to keep her engaged after the opener;
  • The ONE Single Best Opener for Any Girl;
  • 3 Opening Styles for Different Types of Girls;
  • Extra bonus tips;
Difficulty: Easy
 

That will help you even if you’re clueless on how to make a girl interested over text.

Opening is an art that you can learn by studying from the right sources.


Typical Scenario

It's one of those days when you feel sexually aroused, so you start going on your online dating apps to talk to some girls. Doesn't matter if you use Tinder, Bumble, Instagram, Badoo, or Hinge. 

The main problem is that you don't know what to do next once you tap on those new matches you got. 

It's like your brain starts to get into a mess. Your heart rate increases, you start to feel more anxious, and those questions might probably run in the back of your mind:

  1. What should I text her first?

  2. What if she doesn't answer?

  3. What if she doesn't like my opener?

I understand so well those dreadful sensations that it feels like I'm living them again right now. This reminds me of the times when I didn't know how to start conversations with girls.

That's Not a Love Story.

Unsuccessful Beginnings

When I first started out texting girls, I didn't enjoy much success. In fact, my openers were fairly weak and didn't cause any emotional reaction to them.

This pushed me to learn more about female psychology and how I could result more attractive in their eyes. 

I started to test, opener after opener, until I began to notice some patterns in women's behavior. Things began to change when I began to acknowledge women's profiles and values instead of asking questions and making stupid comments.

Only then I decided which opener to use with a specific girl. 

For example, that's how I used to start conversations with girls.

[Insert bad opener]

After my analysis, I started to use different openers. 

[Insert Good Opener + Good Reaction]

I’m going to reveal to you what opener I used in a moment. What she told me after we chatted for some hours will surprise you. 

For now, let’s go on with your opening tips.

Tip #1: Observe Her Profile

The first thing you should do before texting a girl is going through her profile. The reason for that is to understand what type of woman she is.

When my clients ask me for help in starting conversations, I always ask them if they went through the girl's profile they want to text and had a quick grasp of the type of woman she is. 

Their answer 9 out of 10 times is "No, why?"

Simply because every woman is unique and will respond differently to specific openers. Even if there are standard openers that work with 90%+ girls, this doesn't mean that you should be using them all the time.

Indeed, you'll be much better off by starting conversations with a tailor-made opener rather than a canned one. 

[Good General Opener]

That's one of the openers I advise guys to use, and it generally works really well!

However, the woman I used this opener with was a "primadonna" that is usually pretty open. 

"There's one thing I always want to say to girls like you" won't necessarily do great with another type of woman. Just like saying, "Wanna know what I think about you?" or "Wanna know what I think about your profile?"

What if you encountered a more conservative woman? This standard opener might not be the best one to use with her. 

At this point, you'd be much better off dropping an opener like this:

[Conservaive Opener]

Conservative women love those kinds of conversation starters. Go out there to validate this principle. 

In the next step you’ll learn other powerful ways to text girls first.


What Should You Text a Girl for the First Time? (7 Irresistible Openers Revealed)

Bernard Branson

rejection is an opportunity for your selection.

I love that quote because it reflects the awareness of a man that, even though had had his positive and negative experiences with women, still doesn't understand them.


Tip #2: Use Mood Test Openers

Another way to open in the right way is by dropping some test openers. 

Test openers are useful because women will be in various different moods throughout the day. 

This means that since they are emotional creatures, they're highly influenced by their moods when talking to men.

For that reason, many openers might not work the first time you use them, not necessarily because they're not good, but because of the mood, the girl's in.

A way to prevent this from haèpening is by asking if she's in a good mood as the first opener. 

That way, you will make sure to clear out what's unnecessary from the judgments to make about the girl.

As you can see, test openers generally work pretty well.

[Insert Test Opener 1]

[Insert test opener 2]

This opener's main strength is also making the girl perceive you're an empathetic man who can acknowledge her current feelings. For that reason, she'll feel very comfortable talking to you.

Of course, there are other ways to start conversations with girls. Let's see them together.

What Should You Text a Girl for the First Time? (7 Irresistible Openers Revealed)

Tip #3: Use Value Openers

Value openers are perfect to use when you can understand the type of girl you’re about to text. 

As you might understand, every girl is different. She might be attracted by other things at any given moment of her life.

Usually, it takes some time to understand what a girl is interested in through regular texting and not double texting.. Luckily we have dating apps nowadays that help us with that. 

In fact, just by scrolling through the pictures of those girls, you’ll be able to understand what she’s interested in.

Perfect. Now you have some material to work on. 

What you have to do now is drop an opera that makes her understand that you’re interested in similar things as she is.

For example, you might find a girl’s profile interested in nature trips.

A good opener might be this.

[Insert Value Opener] 

As you can see, they usually respond best when you touch the right spot in their minds, triggering a strong emotional response.

Now it’s time for the last tips. Thay will save you time and energy when texting women as it will work both as an opener and prepare the conversation for more intimate talks.

Tip #4: Use Continuative Loop Openers

That’s one of the best practices to apply when texting women for the first time. Those sets of openers will work both as openers and prepare the ground for the sexualization phase that will come later on in the conversation.

Many men think short term when starting conversations with girls. That’s not the most effective approach, as, with the opener, you can do many more things than just opening. 

For example, look at this opener.

[Insert Continuative Opener 1] 

“I didn’t see such an interesting girl since the last time I traveled to Europe.”

[Insert Continuative Opener 2] 

“I think my dog would love that you like making long walks in nature.”

As you can see, those openers are good at starting the conversation and heading it towards a specific direction.

Most of the time, girls will ask you questions about the continuative elements you put in your opener. 

From there, it’s easy to bring the conversation to a place where you both share your stories, passions, and interests. 

You learned many things about starting conversations with girls, however you’re still missing some of the most important tips. Keep reading to learn them.

When you put real value on the table, you'll be irresistible.

Tip #5: Use a Storytelling Opener

One of the most powerful ways to start conversations is by telling stories. We human beings are intensely captivated by stories as they played an essential role in our survival back in the old days.

For that reason, we are still wired today to listen to stories anytime somebody starts sharing them. This happens because a particular part of our brain (the component responsible for survival and mating) starts to activate and record information.

By using a storytelling opener, you’ll make her unconsciously activate this part of her brain. With that, she’ll feel compelled to keep listening to your story, enough time to build a strong rapport. 

Indeed with a storytelling opener, you’ll manage both to open the conversation in a different way than what most guys do and, at the same time, share a part of yourself. 

This has 2 main advantages:

  1. Get her to know you better, generating more trust;

  2. Make her want to open up towards you;

As you can see from those examples, storytelling can be compelling sometimes.

After you build a strong connection through storytelling, you will be effortless to sexualize conversations, as I teach in my Integral Text Game Course.

Try this unconventional opener and start getting the fantastic results you want.


How The Story Ended

In the end, the conversation with the girl went pretty crazy. 

[Insert Uncovered Pic]

That was the opener I used with her, to which she responded reasonably well.

After exchanging a couple of lines, we ended up talking about sex-related topics. 

Some teasing here and there eventually did the rest, leading her to invite me to her place:

[Insert Invitation Pic]

Strange how a simple but effective continuative opener like that has made our connection building phase easier and stronger.


Raise your Perceived status from the beginning to hook her instantly.

Bonus Tip!

Bonus Tip: Implied Status Openers

Before I let you go, a final tip that will give your openers another significant boost. I'm talking about an opener that conveys you're a man of status. 

Since women are mainly attracted because of the hypergamy principle, making them mate with the best potential partner, they are always on the lookout for the best genes in a man. 

They unconsciously make those decisions by mating with a high-status man that could provide well for her offspring.

This means you should start showing your value from the first message if you want to get the hottest girls on the market. 

However, you should do this implicitly, or she will understand you're bragging. That will cause the complete opposite effect and make you lose social value points.

What implied status openers can you use?

Try those below and see which one of them you like the most:

  1. "With my job, I see many women like you. I hope you're somewhat special";

  2. "One of my employees talked to me about this app, and I was curious. Don't know if I made a good choice."

  3. "Too much of a social life lately. I'd like to have a nice chat."

As you can see, each of those openers conveys some status in its own way. 

The first one makes her understand that the man is used to women in his life and now looks for something more selected.

The second opener suggests the man has a company. Thus has a high social rank and doesn't even look familiar with dating apps.

The third opener conveys a man with plenty of options with his social life, which doesn't need sex. In fact, he just proposed to have a friendly chat.

[Insert status Opener]

As you can see, those openers work wonders with the hottest women out there on the lookout for the best men in the market.

You can be one of those by using them strategically. However, as I teach in the Integral Text Game Course, don't forget to work on your social status; otherwise, you'll hardly look congruent. 

The best thing you can do is craft your own status openers, as they'll closely reflect your social value.

Wizard Takeaway

It seems like openers can have many styles and purposes.


However, what I learned from my journey is that the best opener is the one that fits the girl’s type and values.

Now it’s time for you to enjoy hot conversations with women.

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