Maybe you decided to go for the approach when you saw her beauty, or perhaps somebody introduced her to you. 

Whatever the case, you eventually managed to get her number after a quick chat.

However, when you came back home, you started to think about what to text her for the first time. That’s when doubts began to arise in your mind.

In this article, my friend, I won’t tell you the classical advice of texting her a copy-paste line found on the internet. 

That won’t solve the root problem you’re facing: doubt.

That’s why I want to provide you with clarity on what every woman wants to be told over text.

What if there are better ways to text a girl you just met?

That’s what you’ll learn in this article, along with what’s outlined below.

What You'll Learn

    5 Strategies to Text Girls to make them want to see you;
  • The ONE Reason why Girls DON’T ANSWER Your Texts;
  • How to Spark Girl’s Emotions Consistently;
  • The Mystery Line That Always Works;
  • My 3 Steps Formula to Go From Opening to Dates like a pro;
  • Extra bonus tips;
Difficulty: Easy

That will work even if you’re good at texting women as Arnold Schwarzenegger was at Quantum Mechanics.

Typical Scenario

It's a beautiful day outside, and you feel pretty good. For that reason, you decide to go out for a walk and to buy some things for you.

While you're out, you see a beautiful girl that immediately catches your eye. Her femininity makes you forget of all the other things you had to do, and so you decide to go talk to her.

You summon all your courage and start a conversation that lasts for enough time for you to build rapport with her. That gives you enough space to take her number and go back home as a winner.

And now what? You don't know what to text her and surely don't want to mess up on what you've built. That brought you to search for some practical solutions until you got here.

That's Not a Love Story.

Losing Tons of Opportunities

That reminds me of the first times when I had to text back women after having met her in person. I was the worst guy at starting digital conversations after an in-person one was established.

That's an example of a typical conversation I had with a girl.

[Insert Fake conversationaler]

Pretty lame.

I couldn't understand how it was possible that I could ruin a potential good interaction with a simple opener. 

That made me go so crazy that I decided to understand how texting women were supposed to be done, even if I didn't like it at first.

That's because I've always been a guy preferring live interactions to digital ones. However, I had to recognize that texting women was inevitable at one point unless the interaction went straight into sex. 

Along my journey, I learned the strategies I'm going to share with you today. Then also something surprising about women's psychology that will make you rethink how they really are.

You’ll discover how this ended up in a moment. For now let’s go on with the tips you need to learn to see her again.

Strategy #1: Topic Correlation

One of the best ways that you can use to start a conversation with a girl you just met is by talking about something you’ve already spoken about and that you both like.

That’s a good idea for two main reasons.

  1. You know that it’s a topic she likes;

  2. You can expand into other topics from here.

What’s important is that if you use this strategy, you don’t talk about something that was already told, or you’ll look dull.

Instead, try to relate the conversation to something similar, you’ve been talking about. 

For example, let’s say that you had an overview of the topic of fitness. She told you that she works out 3 times a week and does a Pilates session once a week.

You could talk about the same topic without talking about the same concept by saying something closely related to it. For instance, this line:

“Have you heard of the new home workout app? It suggests to you what workout you should do based on the data you input.”

If she’s into fitness for real, she’ll like the opener. 

What’s important is that you don’t end up talking about the same thing repeatedly because otherwise, the conversation will turn into something too friendly.

Strategy #2: Just Out of Curiosity

In that case, you start the conversation by asking her a question you forgot to ask her in person. 

You can start the sentence with “Just out of curiosity…” Then, continue or simply ask the question.

This time the question can or cannot be related to what you’ve been speaking about before. 

What’s important is that you don’t ask about obvious things. Try to ask her a question that qualifies her in some way. 

What I like asking is if she likes a particular activity, like in this example.

[Insert Opener]

“Just out of curiosity. Do you like sushi?

Or you can ask if she often goes to a place/event in your city.

[Insert Opener]

“Just out of curiosity. Do you often go to “Mazura Bar” in the City Hall?

That can be a plausible link to restart the conversation.

We’re just scratching the surface here, keep reading to find out more opening tips.

What to Text a Girl You Just Met: 5 Proven Strategies to See Her Again

Jenny McCarthy

My philosophy of dating is to just fart right away.


Strategy #3: I Forgot to Tell You

That’s one of the lines that I prefer the most as it engages women’s curiosity. You can use this line when you wanted to tell her something in person that, for any reason, you didn’t tell.

For instance, let’s say that you had a pleasant conversation with her. Still, you forgot to tell her that she was more interesting than the average woman. 

You can start the conversion by saying something like this:

“Hey, I forgot to tell you that you seem an interesting girl. More than the average ones I meet for sure.”

If you want to sound a little edgier, you can add a touch of push & pull by continuing the phrase in such a way.

“Hey, I forgot to tell you that you seem an interesting girl. More than the average ones I meet. Not sure if we’ll get along tough.”

That will put the seed of doubt in her mind, and thanks to the previous compliment, she will have double-sided emotions running through her body.

From there, simply bring the conversation forward following the 3 step approach to dates. Don’t you know what that is? Of course, I’m going to explain it in the next point.

What to Text a Girl You Just Met: 5 Proven Strategies to See Her Again

Strategy #4: The 3 Steps to Date

You can't really talk to a girl and expect her to go on a date with you just because. That would be very inappropriate and lacking touch.

Instead, the best thing you can do is build a definite progression that will lead you to get the date with her naturally. 

You have to make her feel good with your first message, or she'll feel things progress in a too abrupt way.

1: Spark Emotions

The first thing to do to start your conversation like a pro is sparking the girl's emotions.

That serves to make her emotional mind go over the roof so that she can shut down the rational mind that can make her reject you.

How can you spark emotions?

Simple by dropping lines like this:

[Insert Opener]

As you can see, that's a simple yet effective approach to give her a boost of positive emotions.

2: Tease 

Now that you managed to spark emotions in her, it's time to give her something spicier. You'll do this with a tease.

There are many ways to tease a girl over text, but one of the most powerful that you can apply is the sexualizing tease.

That happens you play with her but not censoring the sex topic from the conversation, as in the example below.

[Insert Sexual Tease]

This will make her understand that you're a ballsy man and are not there only to be her friend. You can also tease in other ways, but you'll get many more points if you can do this properly. 

3: Close to Date

Finally, it's time to close her to a date. After all, your goal is to meet her again as soon as possible. There are many ways you can close a girl to a concrete date as I teach in my Integral Text Game Course, but in that case, you can use the safest approach that consists of hinting at a date.

This means that you don't directly go for the close but prompt her to talk about something related to the date. Only then can you start to make some plans. 

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Pro Tip: Always make plans together with her to look like the date is a mutually agreed decision.

Time for the last tips to equip you with all the tools you need to start a conversation back like a pro.

Follow the sacred steps and you'll always land a solid date. 

Strategy #5: Storytelling Re-Engagement

That's a powerful way to re-engage the conversation while also making her go through a mind trip.

Everybody loves stories and is curious about other people's ones. Starting your opener with a storytelling line has many advantages:

  1. It's a creative way to start a conversation

  2. It makes you bond more than before

  3. It will give her positive emotions if it's a good story

  4. It makes her know you better

  5. You can quickly move into other topics

That's why if you apply this strategy correctly, you'll get much more value than all the openers you've previously seen.

How do I use this storytelling opener effectively, Sal?

Start with a mystery line.

[Insert Opener]

After she answers you, you can tell her your story.

[Insert Story]

By starting this way, you'll leverage the power of curiosity to hook her attention. Then you can proceed with your storytelling opener as she'll be ready to receive it.

You learned many things about starting conversations with girls, however you’re still missing some of the most important tips. Keep reading to learn them.

How The Story Ended

Roleplay Always Wins

In the end, by applying those techniques, I managed to get women’s attention much better than before. It was as if I had unlocked a new way of relating to them, previously unknown to me.

They started to respond and to be active. However, there’s something you need to know. I remember one girl that I had approached in the street on a Friday afternoon. We had a 20 minutes chat where we talked about our passions and plans for the future.

So she told me that her dream was to become a nurse on a cruise ship. Since I went on many cruises, I immediately took the initiative and shared some of my best travel stories.

We ended up creating a fiction story of us where we’d randomly meet into one of these cruise ships one day. 

So I had a genius idea that had been proven to work wonders. I told her that when on the ship, I would have gotten sick for some problem.

The pain was so intense that I had to visit the nursery where she was waiting for me. As you can imagine, this made our interaction much more interesting than a regular one as we both had some roles to occupy. 

That’s directly linked to the next tip I’m going to give you.

Build an intriguing narrative between each other and you're halfway there.

Bonus Tip!

Bonus Tip: The Narrative 

The next time you talk to a girl in person, you can apply the following strategy to make it easier to talk to her again. 

This strategy consists of creating a narrative upon which you can build your opener after you leave her.

That narrative will work as an invisible wire that links her to you, even when you’ll be distant. 

All you have to do is create that fictional story of the two of you when you talk to her in person. 

This will make the interaction more intense, and you’ll be able to hook on the narrative you built during the live interaction.

Let’s say that you stopped the girl, and you created a narrative where you’re the doctor, and she’s the patient. 

Here’s how you could start the interaction after you leave her.

[Insert Interaction]

As you can see, that’s an easy trick to get her engaged immediately. I delve deeper into the narrative approach in my  Integral Text Game Course, by the way.

Wizard Takeaway

Women always need to be warmed up before being convinced to go on a date with you. Cook them at slow fire and after some time they’ll be ready for you.

Now you know what to text a girl you just met.

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