Are you looking to get laid on Tinder?

Probably you want to learn how to get a girl to go on a date with you

And from the date have a crazy night at her place

And from the date have a crazy night at her place

That’s normal. In fact, you should be getting those results consistently.

However, unless you learn how to make her excited to meet you live and then raise the excitement until she wants to sleep with you.

In this article, you won’t learn the typical online dating advice that only focuses on one aspect of the game.

What if there are better ways to make her want you?

To give you an idea, I’ll teach you both the direct method of how to get laid on Tinder as well as the indirect one. 

That’s what you’ll learn in this article, and much more, as you can see below.

In This Article You'll Learn

    What gets you laid on tinder;
  • 3 Steps to Get Tinder Girls on Your Bed;
  • The Direct Method of Getting Laid;
  • The Indirect Method of Getting Laid;
  • How to Sexualize Conversations like a Pro;
  • Extra bonus tips;
Difficulty: Easy

What you’re about to learn will help you get laid on Tinder even during those days where you can’t hold yourself anymore.

Typical Scenario

It's the day you can't hold yourself anymore. Not from peeing after drinking lots of beer but hold yourself from exploding like that.

That's why you go onto your Tinder app and start messaging some girls to see who's down to make you happy. 

Mystery Text

However, those are the typical responses you get if you used to text girls as I did. Unfortunately, you realize that getting laid on Tinder isn't as easy as that friend of yours told you.

That's why you start to search for some tips on how to make those girls want to see you naked.

That brought you right here, my friend, where everything is possible, like getting laid the same day from a complete stranger.

That's Not a Love Story

When I Never Got Laid on Tinder

Whenever I needed to empty the pipeline, that's what happened to me, and I didn't have a friend with benefits to help me out.

Back then, I didn't know anything about female psychology, attraction factors, and online dating. That's what was causing my results with girls to be highly impaired. 

Back in 2017, I was going through a tough period of my life where I didn't have neither a girlfriend nor friends with benefits because of having moved to a different city in the north of Italy during wintertime.

However, the pressure of not having a girl next to me pushed me to become proficient with online dating because outside was cold, and not many people were out.

So I started experimenting with different techniques to get those girls to want to sleep with me. 

After a few days, I didn't see any improvements. However, the real deal started to arrive after weeks of practice.

It all started with the first one night stand I got during a boring Thursday afternoon & evening. That's the first time I noticed that I needed a proven process to get girls to want to go out with me. 

That's exactly the process I'm about to share with you today. At the end of the article, you'll find out what results it produced in my dating life.

Important Note: Read the article carefully; there's a special attraction tip hidden inside.

3 Steps to Get Laid on Tinder by Hot Girls 

Why should you follow 3 precise steps to get laid on Tinder? Isn’t it enough just as a girl to come to your place?

Not really, and you probably know that too from personal experience.

Every process in life has its own stages. Seduction, just like refining oil to get plastic or gasoline. 

If you want to get a girl to sleep with you as fast as possible, you should use a specific process in seduction. This process is different from the one you’d use to get her as a friend with benefits or as a girlfriend.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

Moreover, there’s a different process if you want her to go out with you on a date first and then sleep with you or if you want to directly go to her place to get laid.

Let’s discover the first step together now.

How to Get Laid on Tinder:

The Direct Method

This method will serve to get you laid without going on a date with the girl and is the go-to if you can't hold yourself anymore. 

Let's see it together.

Step #1: Tease Her

Teasing the girl is the first thing to do to ensure you a one night stand. That's because girls are emotional creatures and need to feel emotions to be attracted to a man.

To tease a girl over text, you can do many things like:

  1. Pranking her
  2. Challenge her
  3. Disagree with her
  4. Roleplay with her
  5. Making fun of her

Those are just some of the things you can apply to provoke in her the feeling of being provoked.

Like in the example below.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

If you do this correctly, her attraction towards you will rise high enough to make you move to the next step: sexualizing the conversation.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

Lena Dumhan

I'm not great at dating, but I need to do it to relax.

Relaxing is the best. especially on the bed With your date after sex.

Step #2: Sexualize Conversation

Now that her emotions have been shaken after the tease, it's time to bring things to a new level.

That's when you need to sexualize the conversation so that you can cook her to a high enough temperature to make her want you as soon as possible.

How can you sexualize the conversation effectively? In that case, by using the topic narrative entry method.

This is the best way to get a girl to think about sex while also building complicity. 

The technique consists of giving a character to the girl and you so that the two's interplay makes her excited about the idea of you living together.

Look at the example below.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

As you can see, I made the conversation erotic by giving her a role.

Then I let her play with my ideas until she began expressing her intimate thoughts as well.  

That brought me close enough to go for the close.

Step #3: Narrative Close

The narrative close is nothing but a natural progression from the previous conversation to the date. 

How can you do it effectively?

While the tension is high, move the conversation to something more concrete than the airy idea of two characters playing together. Look at the example below.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

Hint to the possibility of you meeting up with her and also add a hint to the idea that life is short. That will ensure you enough probabilities to make her willing to meet you in a few hours. 

That's one of the sexualization entries I teach in my Integral Text Game Course, by the way.

Since, in that case, you want to have a one-night stand, make sure not to make her arousal energy go away. Don't give her time to think about risks or consequences. Be fast like a jaguar in your attack, and you'll be fine.

We’re just scratching the surface here, in a moment you’ll learn how to close her to a date first and then move from the date to her/your place.

How to get laid on Tinder: The Indirect Method 

Now let’s go on with the indirect method. That will get the girl from Tinder to date, then move her from the date to your place. Let’s see how it works.

Step #1: Tease Her

First of all, start with the tease, just as in the direct method approach. That will be necessary anyway to make you be perceived as an edgy man and give girls the emotions they need.

Step #2: Connect

Instead of sexualizing the conversation (like in the direct method), connect with the girl this time.

That will make her feel more comfortable at coming to the date with you. 

To connect with the girl effectively, you can talk about one (or all) of the following topics:

  1. Interests/hobbies
  2. Common values
  3. Mutual Storytelling

Get to know her and make her feel you’re acknowledging her as a person. In this movie scene you'll understand how to emotionally connect with a woman.

Step #3: Close

When you feel she’s comfortable enough with you, ask her to meet you the same day for a “quick coffee” or whatever works well in your city as something simple. 

If she accepts, you’ll find yourself on the next step to be done in person.

Now it’s time for the last phases that will teach you how to move from your date to her place.

Sometimes the indirect method works best.

Step #4: Tease Again

Once you get on the date, tease her back. This will make new emotions spark in the girl and get her to become more polarised towards you.

Step #5: Connect Again

After you completed your teasing stage, connect with her once again, this time sharing more about yourself, as you’ve done previously. That will solidify your relationship and make her feel more comfortable about sleeping with you.

Women are emotional creatures, and they need to feel connected to a man before submitting granting to a man.

Step #6: Sexualize

When the connection is strong, you can move on to the sexualization phase, this time brought out in person.

You can sexualize the conversation by simply touching her (kino) in the right spots or using narrative entry like in the direct approach case.

Ideally, you should kiss the girl in that phase and touch her in the most sensitive areas of her body. That will prepare her to have sex with you.

Step #7: Close

When you feel she’s been cooked well enough, close her by leading her to your place. If she wants to go to her place, she will decide for you so no worries about it.

This time you can literally lead her with your hand as after the kiss and kino exploration, she’ll be much more receptive to you. 

So, when you feel like it’s time, take her hand and say something like, “let’s get outta here.” It always works.

Never Apologize If you want To Get Laid On Tinder (Here’s Why)

Apologizing is one of the worst things that you can do if you want to get a girl's attention on Tinder.

Not only that's a low status signal but it also implies that you're not sure of what you want.

Do you think an alpha male needs a girl's validation to get laid or not? Nope it doesn't.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

That's why you must be unapologetically bold and make her understand that she will either get you or lose you.

When you have nothing to lose and you take responsibility for your words and actions, that's when girls will be the most attracted to you.

how to start a conversation on tinder to get laid

To start a conversation on Tinder so that she wants to sleep with you, do this.

Tip #1: Use a Mystery Opener

So many men are boring when starting convos with girls as they talk about too common things.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

You have to realize that girls are ht up by dozens of guys every day and that they are biologically the ones who must choose if to open themselves for a mating session or not.

When you are too common, you won't exert as much influence over her as you should. That's why being mysterious from the beginning will raise your perceived social value.

Tip #2: Talk about her, not you.

Girls can be very egocentric sometimes, and it's the job of a man to make her feel comfortable in her own skin.

Unfortunately this doesn't happen very often, so men start playing the female role talking endlessly about themselves instead of trying to understand who they have in front of them.

Next time you match with a girl on Tinder use an opener like this.

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

Tip #3: Make Her qualify herself

Did you know that most women find men boring?

That's because men always chase pussy no matter what.

However, what happens if you flip the script and make her chase you like a cat?

Biologically speaking, girls are attract to non-needy men.

That's why you must always qualify a girl when you start a conversation (or during it).

Look at the example below:

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

How I got laid by girls 

It might sound strange to you to get such results. However when you know how a girl's mind works there are no restrictions anymore.

When I was in Barcelona back in 2018, I went hunting for tourists on Tinder.

During the first month, I made crazy numbers.

The last 2 weeks of the 3 months I was there were the most productive. 

After many trial and errors, I had understood what worked to get laid on Tinder and what didn't.

The tips I applied are those you find in this article.

As soon as I started structuring my conversation in a bold, authentic and confident way, girls couldn't resist my charm.

The bottom line?

The first week I slept with 3 girls, and on the second one with 4. That was my record that I still didn't beat 4 years later. 

F.A.Q. to Get Laid on Tinder

How easy is it to get laid on Tinder?

It depends on 3 factors:

  1. Your skills;
  2. Where you live;
  3. The girl.

You can control 2 of those 3 variables. This means that the better you become as a texter and the better results you'll get.

Moreover if you live in a city where there are open minded girls, getting laid on Tinder will be easier.

What is a good bio for Tinder to get laid?

There are many bios you can use but those in my opinion are some of the best:

Tinder Bio #1:

"Smart Man (my grandma & boss say)
Here to find a woman that is funny and caring.
I’m not looking for hookups unless WW3 breaks out. Swipe right if you like peace & love —>"

Tinder Bio #2:

"Let’s make a bet.
I will make you laugh without saying a word. Promise. If I lose, I will show you my worst selfie. If you lose... let’s see!
Swipe right if you like to laugh."

Tinder Bio #3:

"If you are still waiting for Prince Charming, good luck. If you just want to have authentic fun, swipe right. P.S. I’m not a catfish."

3 Simple Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Today (Even if You’re Shy)

What is the best way to get laid on Tinder?

Being unapologetically confident and clear about what you want will already get you halfway there.


Because girls will see that you are willing to lose her to go on with your mission.

This shows extreme confidence and boldness.

The second tip I have for you is to be authentic.

Many men fail at getting laid on Tinder because they try to be somebody else.

Don't do this as you'll lose social value since a true alpha man never copies another one.

How often do you get laid fast on Tinder?

If I want, I can get laid on Tinder at least 3-5 times a week when I'm in an open minded city. On a regular one, 1-2 times per week are the average.

Remember that if you fail the first times, that's not the end of the world.

It's normal to make mistakes in the beginning.

What's important is that you don't get discouraged and you keep persisting on your goal until you smash it.

And The Story Ends like this

One Night Stands is the Norm

In the end, following the strategy I just described to you, I improved my results with girls exponentially.

I managed to go from 2 one night stands a year through Tinder to get more than once a week.

That helped me during those hard times in the new city. You can also get the same results by following those steps.

The only thing preventing you from reaching success might be the culture influencing your country and the city where you live. However, trying is the only way to find it out.

Bonus Tip!

Bring her Everywhere and she'll do everything to you.

Bonus Tip to Get Laid on Tinder: The Multi-Step Date

One way to maximize your chances of getting laid the same day, you can use this powerful technique.

It basically consists of bringing the girl into various venues (usually 2-5) so that she has a broader memory of the date. 

For example, at first, you might bring her for a coffee at the bar. If you vibe out well, you can go for a ride with your car and then take another drink in another venue. 

Then you might bring her to a panorama place with a beautiful view and then to your place. That’s just a simple idea; however, you can play with your environment based on what it offers you.

Trust me that she won’t forget the date with you if you do all those activities together. Make sure to choose activities that you both like, otherwise one of you will get bored.

Wizard Takeaway

If you warm up girls well enough, you can get them to sleep with you even the same day, given the right circumstances.

Now you know how to get laid on Tinder.

Hope you'll have some great times out there 😉

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