Probably you want to go from this type of conversation.
[Insert Bad Version]
To this, where she chases you like a cat.
[Insert Good Version]
I see you, brother, and you’re brilliant to think you might be over texting girls.
However, unless you learn how to make them chase you, they’ll get bored and text with a more interesting guy.
In this article, you won’t find the classical advice telling you not to double text a girl to get a text back.
That’s not the whole story. In fact, there are many more variables that will influence her texting behavior with you.
What if there are better ways to text a girl without over texting her?
That’s what you’ll learn in this article, and much more, as you can see below.
In This Article You'll Learn
What you’re about to learn will make girls text you so much they’ll be asking themselves if they’re exaggerating.
It's one of those days where you're texting some girls you really like.
You exchange some lines and have pleasant conversations. However, you see that some of the girls start losing interest after some time, and their messages become shorter and shorter.
This makes you wonder for what reason this might be happening. Is it because you said something wrong, or it could be that you're over texting them?
As soon as this thought crosses your mind, you realize that it is time to learn how to make her text you more.
That's Not a Love Story
Sending 5 Messages in a Row
That’s the same thing that was happening to me long back when I didn’t know how to text a girl.
Taken by excessive excitement, I kept sending girls message after message, without thinking that this could make them bored and as dry as the Sahara desert.
For some reason, I didn’t see that the more I chased women, the less interested they became to me.
The reason for that was that I thought with a male brain, completely disregarding that girls could reason entirely different than me.
After waking up to this idea, I began thinking of how I could text girls so that they were ALWAYS texting me more than me.
I started practicing my texting skills and, little by little, I noticed some patterns in women’s behavior that made it click to me.
I went from chasing girls over text to make them chase me regularly.
This happened thanks to a particular texting strategy that I developed over the past years. That’s what I’m going to share with you today, along with other powerful ideas.
You’ll learn how this story ended in a moment. Now it’s time to know what to do to avoid over-texting a girl.
Important Note: Read the article carefully; there’s a special attraction tip hidden inside.
Tip #1: Focus On Intensity
One of the most common reasons for making men over text girls is that they give too much importance to the length of their messages rather than to the content.
That’s because they probably think that by saying more, they’ll convey more.
However, that’s not true. In fact, you can say a lot to a girl by texting her one single word, sometimes not even saying anything!
That’s because communication intensity doesn’t occur linearly, but it’s more a process depending on various factors determining its quality.
We’ll go through those factors in a moment. By the way, if you were texting girls long messages to attract them more, realize that you can do the same with fewer words.
Look at the example below.
As you can see, I didn’t say much to her, but she was still engaged in the conversation because of one simple reason: I sparked emotions in her.
This brings us to the next point.
Married life is the same as dating life, except now you have a ring, and the state of California has a vested financial interest in the outcome of your marriage.
Not sure it's the same but... ok!
Tip #2: Tease Her Emotions
When you text a girl, teasing her emotions is the first thing you should be concerned about.
Most men think that to attract them, they should send witty pickup lines or do other dumb stuff.
However, that won't get you the results you want as this is just one small piece of the entire puzzle.
The reality is that unless the lines you send her to make her feel something, she will forget you.
Girls are emotional creatures, and all they crave is feeling something, whether positive or negative.
Don't be afraid of making her feel strong emotions as that's what she's there to experience.
This means ditching all the useless copy-paste lines you might have randomly taken online and only use those that work for real.
How can you tease a girl's emotions?
There are many things to do. However, the following will usually work best:
Making her laugh
Sexualizing the conversation
1: Making Her Laugh
One of the best ways to tease a woman's emotions is by making her laugh over text.
That will make her body release certain chemicals, like dopamine, that will give her an energy boost.
2: Challenging Her
After that, you can challenge the girl with some fun games. One thing that I like doing is to make bets with her.
Who loses the bet pays the price that usually is paying for a drink or giving a massage to the other.
3: Sexualizing the Conversation
Finally, one of the best ways to make her feel emotions over text is by sexualizing the conversation.
This will show her that you don't care about her opinion and express your sexual intent with courage.
We’re just scratching the surface here. In the next steps you’ll learn other techniques to make her chase you over text.
Tip #3: Be the prize
One of the most powerful ways to avoid over texting her, is positioning yourself as the prize in the interaction.
If you manage to do this, she will start to text you more than you did with her.
Moreover, she’ll be more attracted to you for biological reasons.
In fact, girls are programmed to like leaders that know and take what they want from life. No wonder that when you start chasing a girl, you’ll push her away ironically.
Remember that girls are like cats as they embody the female principle. Stay in their range but never try to catch them. Let them catch you instead and this will be a much funnier process for them too.
Here’s an example of how to do this:
With one stone you kill two birds if you start to become the prize during your interactions.
Because you’ll waste less time, energy and power if they do the work for you.
Be the chocolate cake at the end of the tunnel.
Tip #4: Use mystery
If you’ve been in the company of attractive girls for some time, you’ve probably noticed how virtually all of them thrive when presented with a mystery to solve.
“This guy looks really mysterious.”
“You should read this book Anne, there are lots of intrigues and mystery stories.”
“There’s something mysterious about him that attracts me.”
Those are some of the sentences that you often hear women saying.
As you can see, mystery strongly attracts the female. That’s why I make sure to use this repeatedly when chatting with them.
In fact, this prompts them to keep texting back, until the psychological frame is reversed and I’ve become the prize.
Now it’s time for the last tips that will help you text girls just the right amount.
Tip #5: Tell Compelling Stories
To finish off, one great way with which you can prevent girls from getting bored of texting you is telling stories.
Storytelling is one of the most powerful ways to connect with a girl. The reason for this is that it stimulates a specific part of our brain that helped us survive back then during tribal days.
For that reason, it’s essential to tell compelling stories that make girls go: “wow!”
Why do you believe most marketers implement storytelling into their sales pitches?
Why do companies spend millions of dollars in advertisements that include storytelling?
That’s also what Donald Miller, a famous entrepreneur and public speaker suggests in his consulting.
What stories should you tell?
Anything that sparks emotions will be fine. This means sharing the first time you have lived together or flown to another country alone. Or maybe talk about that time when you were about to die and then survived.
That’s an example of how to use storytelling with Tinder.
Can you see?
We went from a conversation that looked pretty boring to one where she started to tell me more about herself.
Sharing all the information let me calibrate my next words that attracted her even more.
And The Story Ends like this
Cutting it short works
In the end, I stopped sending long messages to girls, hoping that they liked me more and I began adopting a short texting attitude.
As you can imagine, I attracted more girls with less effort and moreover, my perceived attractiveness went through the roof once they started investing more in me.
Because the simple fact that a girl is texting you more than you text her, will subconsciously influence her into thinking that she’s probably trying to seduce you and not the contrary.
This means that you’ll automatically put aside all the competition and get the attention of hotter girls, since those are usually the ones that like difficult guys.
Using Yin and yang energies is always a good idea.
Bonus tip: appear & disappear
Before you go texting girls, here’s another tip for you.
It’s known that responding to girls after some time somehow causes a magnetic attraction from them.
While this is true, we have to know when not to overdo this technique.
Should you answer girls after 2 hours all the time?
Not all the time.
In fact if she’s in the middle of a hot conversation and wants to talk to you like there’s no tomorrow, why should you answer her after 2 hours?
Look at this video.
As you can see, she’s loving talking to me. It would be stupid if I disappeared into nothingness.
Do you like sex talks?
Then you must respond to girls fast, that’s when they’re hot enough to talk dirty to you.
Does this mean you should always be on your phone, texting her? No.Alternate appearance with disappearance and you’ll see how she will never grow tired of you. That’s what I teach in my Integral Text Game Course, by the way.
What I learned along my journey is that girls don’t actually want to be pushed to like you. Give them space to be themselves and you’ll attract them with much more power.
Now you know how not to text her too much.
Play smart and you're on your way to succeed.