I understand. After all, unless you learn how to keep a woman’s interest at its highest, she will grow tired of you and go with somebody more entertaining. 

But no worries, there’s a solution to that, and it’s elementary to apply.

In this article, you won’t find the typical advice that tells you to “make a girl wait double the time she made you wait.”

That’s outdated advice. As you will learn in a moment, you might lose many opportunities with more interesting girls by applying it.

What if there are better ways to keep a girl interested?

That’s what you’ll learn in this article, along with what’s outlined below.

In This Article You'll Learn

    The Truth About How Often to Text Girls;
  • 5 Value Texts to keep Girls Always Interested
  • How to Make Her Text You More Frequently;
  • What to do When She Doesn’t Text Back;
  • The One Thing that Always Makes Her Chase You;
  • Extra bonus tips;
Difficulty: Easy

That will help you keep girls interested even if you always turn them off while texting.

Typical Scenario

It's one of those days where you'd hope that God had provided you with the magic power to make any girl interested in command.

The problem is that you've not born with that ability. Thus you have to put your share of sweat to learn how it's done. 

That's why you try to text girls and send them something that would make them interested.

However, after a few text exchanges, you see that she's as excited as staying in a math class.

That's when you realize that there's still a lot to learn about texting women. That brought you here, a place where you can finally redeem your texting skills.

That's Not a Love Story.

From 5 Times a Day to 1 Every 2 Days

That is similar to what I was experiencing at the beginning of my texting years. I wasn’t aware of what women wanted back then, and for that reason, I failed at making them interested in me.

I remember that the first time, I just texted women based on the typical advice of making them wait double the time they were taking to text you and remember to never double text or you'll lose her.

However, that was an overall detrimental strategy. In fact, only a few women liked the way I texted them. All the others were either bored with my frequent replies or pissed off by the excessive time I was taking.

That’s when I understood that the classic tips didn’t work out on any girl.

What was the truth then?

This question brought me on a journey that changed my outlook on women entirely.

You’ll learn how my search ended in a moment. Now it’s time to find out how to text girls to keep them interested.

How Often Should You Text a Girl to Keep Her Interested?

The quick answer is that every girl is unique, and so she’ll have different preferences on how frequently to be texted.

I know this might piss you off, but I’m here to give you real solutions to the most common dating problems.

Every girl has her own time to judge if a guy is texting her too much or not. 

This depends on 3 aspects mainly:

  1. Her culture
  2. Her dating experience
  3. Her intention with the man

Her Culture

The culture where a girl is born will directly influence her belief system about how to text. By culture, I also mean the influences she regularly gets from her friends.

Imagine this scenario. A guy called Mark just texted a girl named Sarah when she happens to be with her friends. One of them points Sarah out that Mark is too needy and should text less than he’s doing.

So Sarah, pressured by her friends, starts to text shorter and shorter texts to Mark until she completely ignores him.

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That’s when Mark takes the hit, without even knowing why. After all, he was just following the tips he found online on how often to text a girl.

Her Dating Experience

That’s another aspect that will influence her behavior around a man. Usually, the more experienced a girl is, the less needy she’ll be in her dating life. She will have overcome individual mental attachments to certain things.

That’s why she could be ok texting a man only once every 2 days, maybe chatting for half an hour max, to keep her within the optimal interest level.

Her Intention with the Man

Finally, what she wants from you will also determine the ideal texting behavior to have with her. 

Let’s say she finds you very attractive and an above-average interesting man. That would be a great tell you to text her more than usual as that’s probably what she would want from you.

As you can see, there’s no straightforward answer on how often to text a girl as that’s very individualistic. However, by considering the variables above, you’ll be able to respond with more accuracy.

Of course, other variables should be considered to better determine the most appropriate texting response. However, that would only complicate things.

Want to go deeper than the advice I’ve just given you? Forget how often to text her and think about what to say to her.

In fact, you should focus your attention on making a girl like you over text. That’s what will ultimately lead to a compelling interaction from which she won’t want to get out of. 

That’s why you should start applying the 3 tips below to keep her interested.

We’re just scratching the surface here. Keep reading to find out more on how to keep her interested over text.

Use your intuition to sense what she might want from you.

3 Things to Text a Girl to Keep Her Interested

By applying the tips below, you’ll engage girls much more quickly and get them to want to come on a date with you.

Tip #1: Value Texts

All women look for value when relating to a man. Being aware of this, presenting yourself as a valuable man in women's eyes is going to be paramount. 

How can you provide value to girls over text? 

Showing some of the following elements will get the job done:

  1. Social Status;

  2. Confidence;

  3. Humor;

  4. Empathy;

Social Status

Being perceived as someone that matters in society will activate a specific attraction circuit in the girl's mind. This will make her more interested in doing something beyond friendship with you.

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Confident men have always been attracted to women since the old times. Indeed, being a confident man would signify being a better provider. Since women are still influenced by the ancient tribe times, they'll find you more interesting if you show confidence.

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It's known that girls wanna have fun. If you can learn to make a girl laugh over text, you'll own her. Especially if you'll be able to do this in person. 

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Another essential aspect to show to girls is that you can relate to them and make them feel understood. That will help you build more comfort and stronger connections, even over text.

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How Often Should You Text a Girl to Keep Her Interested? Apply Those 3 Golden Rules for Maximum Success

Henry Cloud

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.

Always be yourself

Tip #2: Push & Pull Texts

Another way to keep her interested is by sending her some push & pull texts. Those are great to keep her on her toes, in between the fine line between validation and rejection. That’s what will keep her coming back to you. 

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As you can see from the example below, those kinds of texts can be really powerful if applied with the right girl at the right time.

Tip #3: Mystery Texts

Finally, mysterious men are something that women have been attracted to for ages. In your real-life experiences, you probably noticed how women’s curiosity can get so strong sometimes that they’ll do anything to know what’s going on.

You can be mysterious with girls in many ways, for instance, not revealing to them a detail of your life, what you do for a living, or what you think about women.

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That will bring them to continually think about you until they’ll get crazy. I know this from personal experience. 

Moreover, think also about the most interesting movies you’ve ever seen. The screenplays never reveal everything at once but keep the audience on their toes by giving information little by little. 

That’s what you should start doing with girls to keep them interested.

Now it’s time for the last tips. With those, you’ll learn what to do in common situations that occur while texting girls.

How Often Should You Text a Girl to Keep Her Interested? Apply Those 3 Golden Rules for Maximum Success

What to Text a Girl When She Doesn’t Text Back?

One of the most frequent questions I get asked is what to do when she doesn't text back. 

Apart from applying the tips we just spoke about above to prevent this from happening, you can do a couple more things.

My favorite strategies to text a girl when she doesn't text back are those:

  1. Sending a GIF

  2. Sending her a cool picture

  3. Using Honesty

1: Sending a GIF

This has proven countless times to be one of the best strategies to make her chat with you again. 


First of all, sending a funny GIF is very easy. Moreover, it doesn't look needy from your side to send it and then wait for her response. 

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If you catch her attention with the GIF, you can then send a follow up that will engage her back.

2: Sending a Cool Picture

That's another way to show the girl that you do something interesting in your life apart from texting her.

A cool picture can be anything, from a shot of you doing an interesting activity to a good memory of your past that you'd like to share with her.

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As you can see from this example, things will start moving with such pictures.

3: Using Honesty

That's the last resort for me when it comes to engaging a girl back. Sometimes, we don't really know what happened, and the best thing we can do is ask them what was wrong.

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That's what will solve most of your communication problems from the root.

How The Story Ended

Adapting to Girls

In the end, I realized that there was no all-encompassing answer when it came to how often to text girls over text. 

I found that the best solution was adapting my game to their style so that they’d always be satisfied with how much attention I gave them.

That’s because every girl has her own belief systems and values that ultimately drive their behaviors.

When I started texting girls this way, my reply rate increased by more than half, and they enjoyed talking to me more and more.

Bonus Tip!

Become the prize and she'll chase you like cats do with yarn balls.

Bonus Tip: How to always keep a girl chasing you

Before you go there’s a final tip I wanted to share with you. That will eliminate many useless behaviors that were probably impairing your results rather than helping you.

Another question that most men have is how they can continuously keep a girl chasing them. The reality is that the best thing you can do is not even trying to make her chase you. 

In fact, the more you’ll try to keep her with you, the less successful you’ll be on average. That’s because a try-hard man is never going to be attractive in the eyes of a girl.

However, if you start to become the prize in her eyes, everything else will come easier. After all, if you sub-communicate this with the way you text, she will only be able to deduce that you must be a high-value man.

That’s what I teach in my Integral Text Game Course, by the way.

Wizard Takeaway

There’s no unique formula to attract all the girls to us. You must tailor your game on each one of them for best results.

Now you know how to keep a girl interested over text.

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